We get to meet so many people as we are growing up. There those that we might fall in love with and wish to be either like them or just have them in our lives in any way possible. In simple terms, they become our roles models or intimate partners. We worship them, and once we get a chance to meet them and get too close to them, there is no doubt that we will do whatever it takes to make these people happy such that we keep them forever. But in the process of doing so, we end up losing ourselves, our thoughts and our own beliefs.
The thing is, how can you possibly think differently from how your dearest one thinks!! I mean, can you support a team or party they don’t like? May be you can, but most people can’t and that is the person that I am targeting with this post.
“Don’t lose yourself trying to be everything to everyone.” – Tony Gaskins
Well, it’s very okay to love someone else besides you. Support them and wish them well but never let anyone else dictate how you should live your life, what you should think about what or even who to surround yourself with. You see, I am not trying to tell you what you should do or believe either. I’m sharing this with you and for me it’s up to you to choose whether you take it or not. So are we good now? Alright, what I am actually trying to tell you here is that you are not growing as an individual because your life is attached to someone else’s. Nothing about you is real. You don’t think for yourself nor do you have anything of your own.
“You must love yourself before you love another. By accepting yourself and fully being what you are, your simple presence can make others happy.”
Because you love them so much, you spend every coin on providing them with things you don’t even have yourself. Loving others is a beautiful thing but you need to focus on YOU first. You have got to love yourself first because truth is that we can never pour from an empty cup and self love is not selfish. Learn to love yourself and once you do, you will make better decisions in life.
This is not the only reason as to why you ain’t growing as a person but I felt like I should stress this too since not many people mention it.